How to Do It

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question for the column? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

I Found the Video My Boyfriend Was Trying to Hide on His Computer. Oh No.

Jessica Stoya
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Oh No. The MAGA Moment Has Come for Me in the Worst Way Possible.

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My Boyfriend Loves to Dress Up as a Woman During Sex. That’s Not Even the Problem I Have.

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I’m Recently Divorced. It’s Transformed My Sex Life in a Way I Never Thought Possible.

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The Only Way I Can Get Off Is Mortifying to Do in Front of Someone Else

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